<p>Tony Lombardi, the former director of Alex’s Place at the YMCA, died last Friday morning at the Martha’s Vineyard Hospital. He was 59.</p>
Tony Lombardi, the former director of Alex’s Place at the YMCA, died last Friday morning at the Martha’s Vineyard Hospital, nearly a year after he was disabled by an ischemic stroke. He was 59.
“They said his heart gave out,” said Mr. Lombardi’s close friend and co-worker Laurel Redington, who was with him at the hospital when he died.
A former heroin addict who got clean at Gosnold on Cape Cod and moved to the Vineyard nearly 30 years ago, Mr. Lombardi had a career marked by generosity and caring. A co-founder of the Safe Haven summer camp for inner-city children living with HIV, he ran the camp from its inception in 1994 until 2009.
He taught math and other subjects in the special education department at Martha’s Vineyard Regional High School, managed the famed Wintertide Coffee House in Vineyard Haven in the 1980s and 1990s and then turned Alex’s Place into a year-round destination for teens, complete with a recording studio and a regular open mic night. Mr. Lombardi was at Alex’s Place when he suffered the stroke on Dec. 23, 2016.
“He was a champion for the youth,” said Edgartown police officer Curtis Chandler, who before entering law enforcement had worked with Mr. Lombardi for seven years and two locations of the YMCA teen center.
“He loved kids and he wanted to make this place a better place for them,” Mr. Chandler said. “He wanted to give them opportunities that they didn’t have.”
Mr. Lombardi saw potential in the young Mr. Chandler and eventually made him assistant director of the teen center.
“He gave me the opportunity to grow up,” Mr. Chandler said. “He was an awesome person.”
At both the Wintertide and Alex’s Place — where the basement performance space echoes the stage and set-up of the long-closed coffeehouse at Five Corners — Mr. Lombardi forged lasting relationships with musicians at all levels of their careers, from teenaged singer-songwriters to national and international touring acts.
“Because he was friends with all these touring artists, his work and part of his heart went all around the country and all around the world in the careers of the musicians he brought to the Vineyard. He was beloved,” said Ralph Jaccodine, a Boston area artist manager representing Ellis Paul, Livingston Taylor and other performers.
“We used to have late-night conversations, at least once a year, about how important it is to serve as many people as hard as we can until the end,” he continued. “He was very conscious of the fact that we’re just here for a limited period of time.”
Anthony J. Lombardi was born on May 1, 1958, in Plymouth. He began hanging out at Boston rock club The Rat while still in his teens, calling himself Tony Dumpster and running the sound board for live acts. In the heyday of punk rock, the young Mr. Lombardi partied with bands including the Ramones, Blondie, The Sex Pistols, Talking Heads and REM, Ms. Redington said.
After graduating from high school at age 18, he moved into Boston full-time and began using drugs, sometimes living on the streets.
“I’m not sure when he checked himself into Gosnold, but it was in his early to mid 20s,” Ms. Redington said. Mr. Lombardi later told her that he promised “a higher power” that if he could survive heroin rehab, he would dedicate his life to service.
He never sought to shield his past. “It was just part of who he was,” Ms. Redington said. “By admitting who he was and being who he was unapologetically, he allowed other people to be themselves as well.
“He touched so many lives and he was larger than life.”
Another friend, Dr. Nancy Berger of Vineyard Haven, said of Mr. Lombardi: “He was like a genie in a bottle, and now he’s free at last. I like to think of it that way.”
In 2015 he was honored with an award from the Martha’s Vineyard Chapter of the NAACP for his community service work. Characteristically, he turned the spotlight away from himself and onto the audience. “I see all of you out there, and I know that each and every one of you could receive this award,” he said, calling service both spiritual and emotional currency.
He will be remembered formally with two memorial celebrations in 2018. On Jan. 14, there will be a gathering at Alex’s Place from noon to 2 p.m. According to his expressed wishes, it will not be a wake or a funeral but a party with food, music and stories. “No glitter or balloons,” Ms. Redington said.
Friends are asked to bring a song, a memory and any pictures that can be left at Alex’s Place for display at a spring celebration of Mr. Lombardi’s life, to be announced.

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Tony was a good friend a real
Bill Bernard Oak Bluffs ma.Tony was a good friend a real caring and giving man.I met Tony when i was in High school in 1988 he took time to try and help me when i was starting to get involved with drinking and drugs.Tony never judged me or made me feel uncomfortable he just let me new he was there for me.As years went on and i would see him even as resent as a October of this year .The first words from his mouth was hey Bill how are you doing with his same as always caring look.I said How are you doing as always im doing good knowing how sick he was makes me hay up til he died he was always worried about others before himself.A real man truely a special friend ill Miss you alot Tony and the island will Miss you alot more then you will ever know.Rest in peace.Bill.B.
Thank you Tony for believing
Theresa Razmaknin (Baldwin) HamdenThank you Tony for believing in the power of the human spirit and showing true compassion for others. You were a positive role for me at very difficult time of transition in my life. I am grateful to have known you. May you be at peace and your spirit shine on forever in those whose lives you have touched.
Tony found the adult inside
Bob Dutton OBTony found the adult inside of the child and the child inside of the adult -- making us all equal in his eyes. May that openness, warmth and generosity be his legacy and our guide in his absence.
Tony was a great man, friend
Mary McGuire Detroit, MITony was a great man, friend and mentor. He touched souls and made the world a better place.
The night my wife and I met
Dan Altano New York, NYThe night my wife and I met Tony Lombardi, he sat down and spoke to us at length about his passion for helping others. He was so proud of what Alex's place had become and what it meant to the community. It was so nice to meet someone so comfortable in their own skin and so conscious that they were in the right place doing the right thing. Meeting someone like that even for a short while is contagious. It makes you want to be a better person and pay it forward. I'm sure the thousands of people who have come through Alex's place would say the same thing. That's what a lasting legacy looks like.
I met Tony in high school. He
Jon york Melrose massI met Tony in high school. He was not just a teacher but a friend. He helped me through many hard times. He could sense when people needed help and was always there when you needed him. Tony took me under his wing to say all through my high school years. He stayed interested in my life in the years after. I can without a doubt say he did this for many others. He was a great man and I’ll miss him very much. Rest In Peace Tony.
May your spirit soar Tony!
Thomas J Bena ChilmarkMay your spirit soar Tony!
A lovely man, condolences to
Jason GayA lovely man, condolences to his family and friends and many people whose lives he touched
So sorry to read the news of
Jill White Vineyard HavenSo sorry to read the news of Tony's passing. Whithout knowing Tony personally, I always admired him from all the aparent heart felt work he accomplished. I am glad I took that moment a few yrs. back at The Y to congratulate him on an award for his work with Alex's Place. It was a heartfelt exchange of gratitude. Yes, now he is free and in a better place to continue his spirited work.
My daughter Laurel and I
Charles B. Redington Martha's Vineyard and Englewood, FloridaMy daughter Laurel and I often attended the Wintertide Coffee house performances in the late 80's and early 90's. From that grew quite a family friendship between Laurel, husband Ray, and daughter Tessa Rose and Tony. I often met up with Tony at the Y when visiting Laurel and family, and Tony always had a big hug for me and a kind word about my daughter. He had a presence that will be felt for many years to come at the YMCA and community.
Your smile, your heart, lit
Tony Balis VHYour smile, your heart, lit ten thousand lives, Tony. Rest in peace.
I first met Tony 30 years ago
Joshua Baker Tuscola, TXI first met Tony 30 years ago in high school. He was such an AWESOME guy with a HUGE heart. He and Peggy Tileston were AWESOME running the youth center that was nearly across the street from the high school. We had so much fun there every week. I am certain that he is in a better place and thankful of how much of a positive impact he was on each and every one of us. RIP Tony! You will be VERY sorely missed.
Yes, thanks Tony.
Rex Jarrell West TisburyYes, thanks Tony.
For loving life like you did, the Wintertide, being buddha...
Great guy: always available
Bob O'Rourke ChappyGreat guy: always available to consult; solve issues. Made our table tennis program for Alex's Place kids happen.
Tony’s passing is both tragic
David R. White West TisburyTony’s passing is both tragic and revelatory. A life powered by a rough early biography with a day-in, day-out DIY passion for service to youth and their well-being is an all too rare resource in a community such as the Vineyard. Tony lived for his teens, fought through with them in their challenges, and institutionalized a philosophy of love through action. His legacy will illuminate youth’s developmental path on this island for years to come.
A priceless person. A friend
Mar Romeo Castellón de la Plana (Spain)A priceless person. A friend for life despite the distante. A generous soul. I'll keep him in my heart until I also have to depart.
I've just learned of Tony's
Keith DeSutter Boston MAI've just learned of Tony's passing. Remembering a man committed to the community and people who comprised it. Celebrant of both diversity and the individual. He found joy in others finding joy. That is a special thing, and a special man.
From all of us at Kashi -
Swami Durga das Kashi FlFrom all of us at Kashi - thank you for your service to so many
with love and gratitude and prayers for safe passage
Tony had a powerful impact on
Jessica Waters Woodbury, VTTony had a powerful impact on my life and to this day, I quote his wise words. Way back in the mid-eighties, before he even moved to the Vineyard, I fell in love with this gentle giant with a hug that felt like safe harbor and a way of grounded a wild, unruly spirit. I feel blessed to have had him in my life, however briefly and will never forget the night he taught me the Serenity Prayer in sign language after midnight in a hotel lobby on the South Shore. Fly free, angel!
I am only belatedly finding
Suzanne Vaughn Upper Valley, VermontI am only belatedly finding this news of Tony's departure.
I first met Tony on the Cape in 1986. He was a kindred soul and good friend to me through many years, though we hadn't spoken in some time. His powerful life example and commitment to helping humanity in so many different ways inspires me still.
Tony's benevolent spirit will continue to burn brightly in the memories of the countless many whose lives he changed for the better.
I grew up with Tony and hung
Paul Minturn Penfield, NYI grew up with Tony and hung around with him in high school at Silver Lake in Kingston. I accompanied him and my friend Liz into Boston to several shows at the clubs in the mid 70s. I lost track of him after i left Massachusetts but heard he was helping youth in need. Sorry to hear of his early passing but so proud of him for being such a positive force in his community while he was here. I still remember ya, Tony!
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