Timothy Johnson

Held Aloft by Hope, Grounded in Thanks

I really think that fall’s colors were more brilliant this year, the reds and yellows much happier against the deep blue skies. Maybe they seemed that way to me.

I really think that fall’s colors were more brilliant this year, the reds and yellows much happier against the deep blue skies. Maybe they seemed that way to me because the circumstances before autumn’s splendor were so dire.

In this season of Thanksgiving, this incredible time, my family is more grateful than ever before. My husband Paul received the greatest gift of all, the gift of a new life.

After waiting almost two years for a liver transplant — after several calls in May and June, and the two times that Paul was prepped for surgery, only to be sent home without a new liver — finally on an ordinary night in late August, the call came. We had returned home after closing up the theatre. I was washing dishes and it was late, near midnight, when Paul leaned over the stair railing to say they called.

Who?

Guess, he said.

I was not even thinking of the MGH liver transplant department because they hadn’t called in over two months. The reality was that Paul had started to consider he might not get the transplant in time. My task, through these months and years, was to never permit hope to leave our house.

So this call on this night was the call we were waiting for but no longer really expected. And it came in the middle of a clear summer night. But we had to get to Boston by 4 a.m.

We called a friend who had offered to fly us if he were still here on-Island (summer was almost over). Then as the Island slept, Paul and I and our much-loved daughter Jenik made it to the airport at 2:15 a.m. to meet our pilot-angel. Off we flew, under a new moon, which is a black moon, a no-moon. And so we flew, the only plane among the stars, swiftly, suspended amidst the stars. And then there we were again, at the hospital and the familiar routine.

With hope, but I admit with a dash of doubt for we had been here before, Paul was prepped for surgery. This time he was whisked away. The operation took eight hours on August 26. The surgeons were first-class, the best in the world. We were told this new liver was healthy; that the donor was older and close to Paul’s age. We were not told who the donor was. We do know that the donor lost his or her life that night in order to give Paul his life. We know that the donor’s family was bereft as our family rejoiced. We know that we were given grace and faith when we needed them most and all would be well. We were in the hands of our Higher Power. And the first thing I noticed, right away, when Paul made it through the surgery and opened his eyes in the ICU later that night, was this: the whites of his eyes were white again. His new liver was working.

Our journey — the wait, the transplant and the good news at long last — became a shared experience. Some of the stories and the miracles along the way were reported and celebrated. Islanders we know and those we never met were rooting for Paul and asking how he was doing. So much wondering and praying. I am here to tell you, yes, he finally received his liver transplant, and he is great. He is healthy, he is alive, and we are grateful for every single minute. Thank you!

How can we thank everyone? The dear friends and family who stayed by our side every minute, who provided us with shelter and food and laughter and courage; the medical workers who care for Paul — his nurses, doctors, surgeons, oncologists, whole teams of miracle workers — both on-Island and off; the priests and ministers and rabbis and entire congregations who prayed for him; our co-workers; Paul’s elderly mother who maybe prayed harder than anyone for her only son; our sweet granddaughters who give us much joy; the neighbors who cared for our pets and pulled weeds in the yard. So many traveled this road with us. Overwhelming, incredible and humbling.

Another Thanksgiving and our world continues to change. Now the leaves are bright brown, the skies are pure silver gray. These things happen when they do, and in a blink of an eye. A life is saved. Another is gone. Our hearts overflow with gratitude.

Ours is a happy ending, a so-far/so-good success story shared by an entire community. Paul is singing again — a miracle. We just celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary. Another miracle.

Thank you, each and every one of you, in heaven and on earth.

MJ Bruder-Munafo is the artistic and executive director of the Vineyard Playhouse.

Comments

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Wed, 11/26/2014 - 22:17

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Pam Benjamin Vineyard Haven

Ohhh MJ!! What a beautiful letter you have written!! Lots of Love and Gratitude to you, Paul and your lovely family on this Amazing Blessed and Gracious Thanksgiving eve 2014!! <3 <3

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 11/28/2014 - 05:29

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Dana anderson Honolulu

Oh, dearest hearts, MJ and Paul, you bring hope alive and make it vibrant from one ocean to another. How deeply and dearly we rejoice with you.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 11/28/2014 - 09:20

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Jamie Curtis Chilmark

Oh MJ... A story as beautiful and more moving than the vibrant fall colors. Among the passing of life a there is beauty that signals a wonderful new opportunity at life. Thank you for sharing this and reminding all to never give up hope. You and Paul are amazing and remind me of the meaning of giving Thanks.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 11/28/2014 - 09:47

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Dean Rosenthal Edgartown

Congratulations, so nice to hear Paul received his much-needed transplant.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 11/28/2014 - 09:51

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M B Norton W Tisbury and Ithaca, NY

Dear MJ, what wonderful news. I didn't see you this past summer but was thinking of you and Paul because of your earlier essay in the Gazette about the potential liver transplant. You have a real reason to be thankful this year.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 11/28/2014 - 13:07

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David R White West Tisbury

Your epic drama and romance embrace the obligations of this island community. It is humbling to watch the pieces of hope and human serendipity fall through pain into place. A time for giving thanks, for sure (as we do for you and Paul in our lives), but certainly a Happy New Year has landed early as well. Love to all, D

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 11/28/2014 - 14:19

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Joan Eville Oak bluffs

It took me a long time to read this as I kept crying, tears of happiness for your family. It is a journey we in church, along with your family and friends, have watched you struggle through. We saw you cope with the disappointments and false hopes so bravely. How wonderful to hear your voice again in the choir.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 11/28/2014 - 16:57

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Andrea Reid Washington, DC

MJ and Paul, I am so overjoyed that Paul got his liver and is doing well. You know how long I have hoped and prayed for this alongside you and your incredible family. MJ, you have captured the joy and agony of transplantation so well. Thank you for giving others hope and faith. Dr. Andrea Reid

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sat, 11/29/2014 - 15:29

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Melinda Loberg Vineyard Haven

It lifted all of our hearts to hear Paul sing "The Impossible Dream" at the cabaret night. So much to be thankful for and so grateful the two of you are in our community and sharing your inspiring story. It helps us all appreciate the gift of life.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sun, 11/30/2014 - 08:40

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Barb (Friedman) Willis Plum Branch, SC

I can't believe I never even knew Paul was ill. So, thank you also for writing this beautiful piece with such wonderful news. You are surrounded by love. Long, healthy, productive lives to you both!

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sun, 11/30/2014 - 14:43

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Pamela Jacqueline Friedman Long Island New York

As a Nurse, observing these tribulations becomes a perseverance test for so many. Joyously, "What Was Seen Was Not Made Out Of What Was Visible". Nothing exceeds the power of one's will. with hope as the anchor. May God keep you In The Shadow Of His Wing.

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