Overflow crowd filled the Agricultural Hall Wednesday afternoon for memorial service for F. Patrick Gregory.
Mark Lovewell

Pat Gregory Remembered for His Kindness, Gentle Spirit

<p>A crowd of nearly 1,000 people filled the West Tisbury Agricultural Hall Wednesday afternoon for the memorial service for F. Patrick Gregory. Son Tim Gregory called his father a whistler and believer in the human spirit.

A crowd of nearly 1,000 people filled the West Tisbury Agricultural Hall to overflowing Wednesday afternoon to remember F. Patrick Gregory for his kindness and gentle spirit, his passion and generosity.

“His even-handed guidance became my edification,” said Timothy Gregory, Pat Gregory’s son. “He was a whistler, a believer in the human spirit.”

Mr. Gregory, 69, was fatally shot on a remote hiking trail in northern California on May 16. The news stunned the Island, where he was well known as a civic leader, businessman and former teacher.

On Wednesday afternoon people streamed into the Ag Hall from every direction for the service and celebration of life for Mr. Gregory, many of them carrying covered dishes for the potluck that followed. The event was scheduled to begin at 4 p.m. but was delayed as people filled the hall on a gray-sky day with chilly, misting rain.

White azalea plants flanked the West Tisbury School podium usually seen at annual town meetings, where Mr. Gregory had presided as town moderator for the past 23 years. A trio played Irish music. And then the room fell silent and members of the Gregory family walked in hand-in-hand. The Rev. Cathlin Baker of the West Tisbury Congregational Church and Father Michael R. Nagle of Our Lady Star of the Sea in Oak Bluffs presided over the service.

“We are stunned and speechless and just finding the voice for our grief,” Reverend Baker said. “Let us relish the community love and support we have together,” she said.

“There were so many of us touched by Pat, he had a special presence that was reflected in his love and faith for all,” Father Nagle said.

A handful of speakers made remarks.

“He was a fine public servant and a true friend,” said West Tisbury selectman Cynthia Mitchell.

“Wherever he went, whoever he met, he brought joy and a zest for life, a sense of optimist that was infectious,” said Joe Arceri, who had been Mr. Gregory’s college roommate. “It’s impossible for me to think about a world without Pat.”

Tim Gregory called his father a “moral lighthouse” and best friend.

Shannon Gregory Carbon, Mr. Gregory’s daughter, thanked the community for their support and love during the past few weeks. She noted a letter sent to her mother Dorothy that described Mr. Gregory as a person with “uncommon decency.”

“Dad was not a man of vengeance,” she said. “I believe we must learn from his death. Look around at your loved ones. Make sure we are treating them with uncommon decency.”

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Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Wed, 05/28/2014 - 19:37

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Ben Doherty West Tisbury

This was a touching and fitting memorial for a great man. We'll miss you, Pat.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Wed, 05/28/2014 - 23:25

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Marie Vineyard Haven

His poise was reflected in his children today. Thank you, Pat, for choosing to be the best of us, as good a man as can be found anywhere. Be at peace.
It is for the rest of us to take care of the living.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Wed, 05/28/2014 - 23:48

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Myra Romain Houston, TX, formerly of Vineyard Haven

Pat was always soft-spoken, respectful, positive and fair, whether conducting business at Educomp or interacting with the kids in soccer - a man of intergrity. Prayers of peace and comfort to his family and the Vineyard community.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 05/29/2014 - 11:23

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Barry rosenthal Hingham mass

The outpouring of love and support was a proper testament to honor Pat, but Tim and Shannon's messages of love and appreciation to this fine man, was truly inspirational.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 05/29/2014 - 14:03

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Gregory Drake east haven,CT

I always liked Pat Gregory he was very kind to me in the west tisbury school. He always seemed to be more than just a teacher
to me, it felt like these were the gifts GOD gave Pat because it was peaceful to him to be that way, it flowed from the river of his heart and I could feel it.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 05/29/2014 - 16:49

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Gus Moore New York, NY

Pat was my math teacher in 5th-8th grades at the West Tisbury School in the late 1970s. Besides math, computers and running--things that have remained a central part of my life to this day--he taught me that a joyful energetic approach to life can bring enlightenment to any pursuit. He was a great man and even though I've only seen him a handful of times since I graduated high school, I will miss him very much and honor his lessons and memory for the rest of my years.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 05/29/2014 - 22:55

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Dana Anderson Honolulu

Pat brought kindness and heart to all he touched. His absence is deep, there on the Vineyard and a continent and another ocean away.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 05/30/2014 - 23:11

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Katie Detroit, MI

I never had the pleasure of meeting Mr. Gregory, but through Chelsea, I have heard nothing but wonderful things about him. My prayers and heart go out to Tim, Chelsea and the family and friends of this dear man who was taken from this world in such an awful way. Peace & Love to all...

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